Have you ever hit your partner? Have you ever been abusive? Is your partner or someone close to you ever scared of you? Do you think you have a problem controlling your anger?
It is difficult to face up to the fact that your behaviour could be abusive, but you can only make changes when you face up to what you are doing and the impact of what you're doing. When you face up to what you are doing you can make changes that will help you be safe around your partner and your children.