What's not a healthy relationship?

Having different opinions and disagreements within a relationship is quite normal. However, arguments and disagreements can also be a sign that things are going wrong in a relationship - particularly if they can't be resolved and agreements reached. So what are the signs of an unhealthy relationship?

  • Disrespect - being let down, not listened to, sworn at or undermined are all signs of disrespect.
  • Unequal - being controlled, manipulated or treated like an object are all signs of the relationship being unequal.
  • Uncompassionate - someone not having any thought about your feelings or being unkind to you is a sign of a bad relationship.
  • Suspicious - jealous and untrusting behaviour is often a feature of unhealthy relationships.
  • Non-consensual - being pressured into doing sexual things you don't want to do, wearing things you don't want to wear or going places you don't want to go are signs of an unhealthy relationship.

Facts and figures

  • Abuse can happen to anyone. Studies show it happens in straight and gay relationships, to people from all backgrounds and can happen to men and women.
  • Abuse is about one person trying to have power and control over another person and can lead to physical assaults, emotional abuse, financial control and sexual violence. Many relationships that start as unhealthy relationships go on to be abusive.
  • 1 in 5 boys and 1 in 10 girls think that abuse or violence against women is acceptable.
  • Up to 1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men will experience some form of abuse or violence in a relationship. Over 100 women a year are murdered by an abusive partner.
  • Abuse is never acceptable. It can wreck your relationship, lead to depression, ruin your job and later in life it can affect the chances of you having a good bond with your children.